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We should not be friends : the story of a friendship / Will Schwalbe.

Schwalbe, Will, (author.).

By the time Will Schwalbe was a junior at college, he had already met everyone he cared to know: the theater people, writers, visual artists and comparative lit majors, and various other quirky characters, including the handful of students who shared his own major, Latin and Greek. As an out gay man, he also knew exactly who he wanted to avoid: the jocks. The jocks wore baseball caps and moved in packs, filling boisterous tables in the dining hall, and on the whole seemed to be another species entirely, one Will might encounter only at his own peril. All this changed dramatically when Will collided with Chris Maxey, known to just about everyone as Maxey. Maxey was physically imposing, loud, and a star wrestler who was determined to become a Navy SEAL (he would later serve for six years). Thanks to the strangely liberating circumstances of a little-known secret society at Yale, the two forged a bond that would become a mainstay for both of them as they repeatedly lost and found each other and themselves in the years after graduation. From New Haven to New York City, from Hong Kong and Panama to a remarkable school on an island in the Bahamas - through marriages and a divorce, triumphs and devastating losses - We Should Not Be Friends tracks an extraordinary friendship over decades of challenge and change. Schwalbe's marvelous new work is, at its heart, a joyful testament to the miracle of human connection - and how if we can just get past our preconceptions, we may find some of our greatest friends.

Record details

  • ISBN: 9780525654933
  • ISBN: 0525654933
  • Physical Description: xi, 313 pages ; 21 cm
  • Edition: First edition.
  • Publisher: New York : Alfred A. Knopf, 2023.

Content descriptions

General Note:
"This is a Borzoi Book published by Alfred A. Knopf" -- Title pag verso.
Formatted Contents Note:
Bright College Years -- Twenties and Thirties -- Midlife -- Forties -- Fifties -- Middle Fifties -- Pushing Sixty -- Coda.
Subject: Schwalbe, Will > Friends and associates.
Maxey, Chris.
Friendship > United States.
Male friendship > United States.
Genre: Autobiographies.

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  • 1 of 3 copies available at York County Libraries.


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Location Call Number / Copy Notes Barcode Shelving Location Status Due Date
Collinsville Community Library Adults 177 SCH Nonfiction (Text) 34259000501702 Main Room New Checked Out 05/01/2024
Martin Library Adults 117.62 SCH Health Wellness (Text) 33454005923321 2nd Floor Available -
Paul Smith Library of Southern York County Adults 177.62 SCH Nonfiction (Text) 34318001220934 Adult Area Checked Out 05/11/2024

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